Bara’s Blog
Step inside my head with me!
Would you like to say goodbye to a fear of rejection? Overcome social anxiety? Experience uninhibited joy, create better relationships, or build confidence and self esteem?
Here I share my own personal stories and tips and tricks on how to accomplish all of that and more!
Quit Future Tripping! How to Quit Letting Anxiety About the Future Ruin the Present
My mind was caught up in worries about the undefined, unknown future. It was essentially hallucinating unpleasant scenarios that were unlikely to become real. I was future trippin’…
Chances are good that you’ve been a victim of future tripping. Future tripping is incredibly common and shows up in a variety of ways.
How to Manifest Money (or Whatever You Want, Really)
I know how to manifest, so I could just focus on that… but first I decided to reflect. Was I holding myself back in any way? The answer came in quick–I was. With the three $100 bills hidden away in my closet.
The Universe had gifted me them a few months ago, but I had yet to fully receive them.
I get that this might sound a little weird, which is why I was hesitant to write this blog in the first place.
Do You Feel Stuck in One Area of Life? It's Hurting the Rest of Your Life, Too
I wasn’t the first person to make this mistake, and I won’t be the last. People frequently ignore the part of their life that sucks, or that they feel frustrated or “stuck” in. They convince themselves that the rest will make up for it. It doesn’t work like that though. When you resign to staying stuck in one area of your life it hurts the other areas of your life too.
5 Tips on How to Improve a Relationship (Like Mine With My Dad)
My healing journey kicked into high gear when I moved in with my parents in my 30’s. Being home with my parents was great at first. My anxiety about their health dropped significantly once I was able to police their actions in person. As the days stretched into weeks, it began to get more difficult…
Every Change Matters: Why We Need to Honor Even the Most Exciting Transitions
Have you ever felt weird after something in your life changed for the better?
Like… you know you should be happy, but you don’t feel that happy?
Or you get a fluttery, anxiety-like sensation in your chest, even though you don't think you have anything to be anxious about?
Or you feel sort of lonely, even though you know you’re not?
Happy Birthday to Me! 35 Favorite Lessons from 35 Years on This Earth
Back to my 35 years on this earth: this birthday sure feels like a milestone. It’s the age my mother was when she had me, which means I’m half of her age now. My mom is incredibly wise, and I’m fortunate in that some of her ways of thinking have rubbed off on me. Now I’d like to share some of my key takeaways with you.
Compassion Can Change Your Life! Here’s How to Develop It
What is most memorable about my compassion journey is the moment that I realized I wanted to increase my compassion for others.
I was so angry I couldn’t think straight.
How to Develop a Mindfulness Practice (aka a Meditation Routine)
Part of the reason I struggled when learning how to meditate was that I didn’t truly understand what my goal was. I thought it was to make my mind go blank, which I found impossible (likely because I’m human). Even when I did get my mind to quiet down during meditation I’d discover that I was thinking about how I quieted it down! It was an incredibly frustrating process that I could have avoided by understanding what mindfulness truly is.
Set Better Boundaries and Gain Confidence, Self Esteem, and Physical Benefits by Learning to Connect With Yourself
I define connection with the self as being consciously aware of what we have going on inside. Inside as in, within the mind and the body. With what’s ACTUALLY present, in this moment, vs. the stories in our heads about what may happen later or what happened in the past. I believe that it is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves. It minimizes all sorts of unpleasant things, like anxiety and fear of rejection, and maximizes some wonderful stuff like confidence and self esteem.
Create Real-Life Connection & Relationships With These Tips
Fortunately, as with any skill, we can get better at connecting with others! It tends to get easier the more we practice. This means that with some work and perseverance through initial discomfort, most of us will be able to create relationships that feel good, overcome social anxiety, and enjoy everyday interactions more. The tips I share below have helped others, including myself, and I’d love for you to try them on too!
Enjoy Life More by Increasing Your Sense of Connection: 2 Simple Steps
I like to focus on two main pillars when it comes to building connection: connection with self and connection with others. I believe that when we do the work in these areas the rest comes naturally. We begin to feel more connected with our environment and the giant snake we encounter when walking down Bourbon Street. Even if we’ve historically been TERRIFIED of snakes
How I became an energy healer and developed my energy work practice
My journey picked up as soon as I got back to Houston, where I was living at the time. I realized that I should probably experience Reiki myself before getting certified in it, so I hit Yelp and Google and wound up booking a session with a guy named David. After sending a couple friends his address and my location along with instructions on how long to wait to hear from me before calling the police, I headed to his apartment with quite a bit of hesitation.
How I opened up to energy healing after several years as a chemical engineer
“But Bara, you were a CHEMICAL ENGINEER. How could you possibly get interested in energy healing?!!” If you have this question, you’re not alone. Check out this blog to hear my story.
I felt stuck trying to name my business. Here’s how I worked through it and regained flow.
If you’re reading this, you probably know that I’m in business startup mode (at least I am at the time of writing this on October 29, 2021). What you might not know is that I have felt pretty much paralyzed when it comes to naming it. Stuck feels like an understatement.